Finding the g-spot is a little complicated sometimes. It’s not something women always talk about and it leaves a lot of people wondering where it is. The good news is there’s a lot of info out there on how to find that spot. Sometimes it’s as simple as changing positions. Other women just need to know what it is they’re looking for to find the g-spot.
If you’re struggling to find your g-spot we’ve got you covered. Let’s talk about what the g-spot is and how to find it. It can lead to better sex and that’s always a great thing. So, here are some tips and tricks to find that sensitive spot. We want you to enjoy the process so we’re here to help!
What Is The G-Spot?
The g-spot is a sensitive area inside the vagina. For many women this spot is the key to having a great vaginal orgasm. Since a vaginal orgasm feels different from a clitoral orgasm, many women are very curious about it. By the way, g-spot isn’t just a made up term. It stands for “the Gräfenberg spot” and it was discovered by a doctor. That means there’s a lot of solid science behind what it is and why it’s so important.
This sensitive area is part of the clitoral “network” of nerves in a sense. It’s basically another way to stimulate your clit, but from a different angle. If you haven’t found your g-spot yet, that’s ok. It’s a difficult task for some women. Although there are general directions online sometimes it doesn’t end up being exactly where you think. That’s okay though, we’re going to cover tips on how to locate it.
Where Is The G-Spot?
Technically speaking the g-spot is about 2 inches inside your vagina. It’s also about 1 inch upwards, on the front wall. The front wall is the area where your pubic bone is, not towards your anus. This is a very technical explanation, but it does give you a general idea of where to look when you try to find it.
If these directions leave you confused, don’t worry. Many a woman (and their partner) has gone looking only to feel more confused and frustrated. It’s not the most detailed explanation. What are you looking for? What does it feel like? How do you stimulate it when you find it? These are all valid questions. So let’s take a closer look at those answers.
How Do I Actually Find It?
Now that you know what the g-spot is and have an idea of *where* it is, let’s talk about how to actually find it. There are a few tips to make finding the g-spot easier.
- Make sure you’re aroused. The g-spot gets larger and easier to find the more aroused you are. It’s almost like a penis in that manner. The more you’re enjoying the activity the easier it is to find. So don’t make this a technical exploration. Make sure you’re enjoying the activities leading up to finding your g-spot. It helps a lot.
- Use pressure and aim towards your belly button. These two things are key to making sure you’re in the right area and doing the right thing. Remember you only need to be about 2 or 3 inches inside your vagina to find your g-spot. Pressure makes sure it’s fully exposed while you’re looking.
- It may be a different texture than the rest of your vagina. The g-spot is often described as having the same texture as a walnut. It might feel more rough and sponge-like than the rest of your vagina. This is usually the case but some women don’t notice that texture change as much as others.
- You will know when you find it. Trust us, you’ll feel it. More than trusting us, trust yourself and your body. When you find the right spot, your body will react. You’ll know. And remember, finding the g-spot is supposed to be fun. If you’re stressed or frustrated, try again another time.
I Found It. Now What?
Awesome job! You found the g-spot so now you might be wondering what works best to stimulate it. There are some great options. You can use the infamous “come here” motion to stimulate your g-spot. Most women find this to be extremely pleasurable. Just insert a finger or two and make the same motion you would use to tell someone to come over to where you are in a room. This is the “come here” motion that can drive you wild.
You can also use your partner’s penis to stimulate the g-spot. Experiment with different positions and different techniques to see what feels best. The more you practice the more you’ll find what works. The best part about practicing is it’s all fun to try. Your partner is likely to enjoy it as well.
There are also vibrators meant specifically for your g-spot. The thing about those vibrators is they get more effective the more you learn about your body. If you know exactly where your g-spot is, you’re going to enjoy them more than if you’re mostly guessing.
If you’re experimenting with your g-spot while using a vibe or your partner, you can play with your clit too. Sometimes you can manage to have an orgasm that starts in one spot or the other and radiates. Many women go wild and love this feeling. If that’s something you enjoy, then great! Now you know even more about how to have amazing sex.
What If I Don’t Like It?
That’s entirely okay. It’s even pretty common. The g-spot is wrapped around the urethra. Some women find that it’s too close and makes them feel too uncomfortable. It’s been described as not pleasurable or feeling like you have to pee, urgently. If you don’t like how it feels that’s fine. You don’t have to feel bad about it.
If you don’t like the g-spot stimulation just make sure you tell your partner. You can do other things and still enjoy sex. The g-spot isn’t the only way to enjoy sex at all. You can still do things to stimulate your clit or do whatever you do like. Don’t worry about the g-spot if it just doesn’t work for you. As long as you’re communicating what you do like with any partners you have, you’re still going to have a great sex life.
A Few Final Thoughts
If it takes a few tries to find your g-spot don’t worry about it. It’s normal to have to look more than once. This is a spot that has been so elusive that some people insist it doesn’t exist. Rest assured that it DOES exist, you just have to know what you’re looking for.
Keep using these tips and you’ll find it. Remember that your body knows best. If you like it great. If you don’t, you don’t have to keep trying. You’ll be much happier just enjoying what you do like. No way is right or wrong. Keep trying until you figure out what works best for you. Then just keep doing those things. You’re going to love the process of figuring it all out!
Sarah Nelson is a nurse with 15 years of experience working with a variety of patients. She has a Masters of Science in Nursing and has spent a large portion of her career working exclusively with women in an OB/GYN setting.
Nursing is a passion for Sarah but she also enjoys writing and sharing her expertise online with people who need helpful information. Treating patients well and helping them learn more about their own bodies is a key essential to a healthy lifestyle that Sarah truly believes in.